Gail Rodgers Sharing the Journey

Living in an Unstable World Part 04 - Keep Unity

Sometimes we find our world shaken from the challenges that come with emotional hardship. It can be devastating. We can feel helpless when our world is shaken emotionally by disunity that puts relationships on edge.

In the steps to stability that God outlines for us, we find a strong call to live in unity with one another.

“See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” Hebrews 12:15

When your world is shaken by emotional turmoil, guard your heart from harboring a bitter root. God tells us that it will show up when we least expect it and cause no end of trouble.

Be on your guard to keep unity in the relationships in your life. Bitterness cannot take root without first planting the seed of hurt and watering the sprouts of resentment. Watch for this cycle that begins in the heart.

1. Hurt

We all experience it and we often cause it. When we find our heart has been bruised by hurt we can choose our response.

  • We can let it go, knowing the heart of the offending person was not set on causing us pain.
  • We can choose to forgive even if the offender meant to hurt us.
  • We can nurse the hurt in our heart and allow it to grow. This choice begins a destructive cycle.

2. Resentment will be the result

When resentment is left to stew in our heart it becomes a filter for all interactions with the other person. This must be dealt with before God and sometimes with the other person. If left, resentment will smolder.

3. Anger is the result.

Anger can manifest itself in many different ways. Harsh talk, depression, general meanness, blocked communication and even violence can be signs of an inward anger. Left alone it will continue to grow. Intervention is often needed here to discover what has caused the hurt and resentment that continues to fester.

4. Bitterness is the result of anger not dealt with

Bitterness will show up at unexpected times and in hurtful ways. Relationships will become tarnished and the cycle of hurt will begin all over again in the lives of others.

Called to unity

God calls us to unity. Deal with hurt as soon as it happens. Go first to God and if He directs you, then go to the other person. Clean it up and get rid of it. The cost of disunity is much too high.

If hurt has grown into resentment, acknowledge it and ask God to help you defuse it in your heart. Consider talking to a trusted friend who will pray with you and for you.

If anger is causing tension in your life or if bitterness has soured your soul, seek out a counselor who can help you work through the steps to understand your hurt. Find someone who will pray with you and for you.

God’s desire is for your heart to be free. Acknowledge hurt when it happens and choose your response carefully. God will be your rock and your help as you work it through.

prayer & reflection

Father in Heaven,
I need Your help to deal with the hurts that come my way. Show me how to let Your grace flow through me. Show me how to discern the heart of the one causing the hurt. When their heart is not set against me, help me to be able to release the hurt to You. When someone is set to hurt me, help me to be filled with Your grace and to forgive. Keep me mindful of this cycle that builds toward a bitter root. Give me grace to live in unity by the power of Your Holy Spirit. Replace the sandpaper in my relationships with the oil of Your Spirit.
In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.